You were defined by how cool your My Space layout was – animated GIFs, custom CSS and your favorite embedded You Tube video.
Very rarely was anything of substance shared there and more or less, everyone had the same opportunity to meet and connect with others.
But from both my personal experience and my coaching experience, I’ve learned that most people tend to fail in online dating and then blame the website.
These days, Plenty Of and Ok are the two free online dating players worthy of your consideration.
Notice that the word is common, not polite or considerate.
You need to know how to dish out rejection in an appropriate way.
Say that you get an e-mail from someone, and you can tell immediately that you have no interest in communicating with that person.
This is like blaming the gym because you didn’t lose weight. So, check out my profile and if you like what I have to say, I really hope to hear from you soon.When I read the profile of someone I’d like to meet, I write them a personalized letter pointing out some of our common interests, adding a bit of levity where I can, suggesting we meet for coffee and conversation. Since we are both members of this group seeking the same goal — companionship — doesn’t social etiquette require some acknowledgment of receipt and a response?These letters generally run from five to eight sentences. Even if there is no interest on their part, what is so difficult in responding, “Thank you for your interest.The closest anybody gets is Ok Cupid – and all they do is give you test results – approximately 27% of people respond to first emails, overall – they don’t show you HOW to write great first emails. You have a great smile and I think we have a lot in common, too. So you don’t put much thought into it, and, not surprisingly, it doesn’t get very good results. There’s nothing funny, interesting, compelling, or different about such an email. Something other than, “I’ve heard it’s beautiful there! ” Personally, I don’t know ANYTHING about Costa Rica, but I do know that all of my left-wing, liberal, neo-hippie friends go on yoga retreats there. I don’t know anything about Costa Rica; I think it’s in the Caribbean or Central America or something like that.So if you’ve been frustrated with your results in online dating (and one look at the comments below indicates that you ARE), there are a number of things you can do differently to get different results. Plus, it compliments the recipient too much – as if Chris is just praying that he/she is good enough for Pat102. Literally, the only reason I’ve even heard of Costa Rica is because of yoga. All I know is that all of my left-wing yoga friends go on week-long retreats there every year.The interactions were unique because of the anonymity given by using My Space.