Mc Rae’s book “Preparing for Your Marriage.” You, your spouse, and the couple you are counseling, should have a copy of this book. Should that be the case, rather that allow them to “wing it,” make this an assignment they will be ready to do at the next meeting.
Having to leave my bride of just over a year behind, while serving in the military at the Nuremberg Trials in Germany, was a sad time." Finding a job just after World War II was not easy either, and there was very little pay in those days.
Counselors should feel free to adapt this approach to their own gifts and style, so long as the essentials are covered. This guide is intended to assist you in planning and working through the counseling process with your couple. From this approach, you might be able to glean the following. Does the couple talk about their faith with each other? Are they confident about the other’s conversion, and is it true faith so far as they can tell? Does the couple seem to have an interest in spiritual things? It is a delight to hear a couple talk about the Lord, what He has done in their life, and how He is still at work.
Keep in mind also that each couple to be counseled will have different levels of spiritual maturity and needs. Some will be engaged for the first time; others may have been married before. The primary source to help you in organizing your meetings will be William J. This approach can also completely stump the couple!
Sometimes I think the “normal” people are just people you don’t know well enough yet. We talked about relationships with parents, and how many girls have “daddy issues.” I don’t have dad issues. My parents married at a young age, and have a successful marriage. However, neither Jessie or I would have talked about this stuff so soon without having the therapist as a soundboard. I spent five years seeing a therapist, so this isn’t strange to me.
I wonder if that is part of the reason I am always trying to find the right person and why I feel like such failure when a relationship doesn’t work out. Jessie is currently in therapy, so it’s all good with her too.